What are the secrets of love?


by Claudia Coffey


Posted on February 5, 2013 at 6:51 PM

Updated Tuesday, Feb 5 at 7:08 PM

LOUISVILLE, Ky. (WHAS11) -- Finding love and keeping it is not easy, but two University of Louisville professors have developed a theory, an equation that might improve your chances.

If the equation and theory work for you, not only could you find love but you could live longer. WHAS11's Claudia Coffey met with the professors that developed the "love potion" then took it to couple's to see if it could work.

In the movies love always seems so right, so easy. When in reality, it's not always picture perfect.

Phyllis and Gary Arnold will celebrate their 50th wedding anniversary on St Patrick’s Day. They own a dance studio in Jeffersontown and have found a way to stay in sync. Humor is a big part of it, even if tensions run high.

"People are always amazed that I can stand there and listen to his jokes and laugh and smile after hearing them 20,000 times..." Phyllis Arnold said.

It's not as easy as it looks, dancing and love.

Dr. Joe D'Ambrosio from the Kent School of Social Work has developed a theory based on research, scales and what is called the five dimensions of love, that must be practiced.

"We should monitor ourselves on a daily basis and see how many of those constructs do we do on a daily basis...It's like a recipe," Dr. D'Ambrosio said.

Others say their recipe is not based of dissertations and research, but learning the hard way, making mistakes and moving on.

Debra Weatherholt  is re-married and says it's the little things that count.

"We get in the car, we hold hands. We still hold hands and we have been together 10 years and we still hold hands," Deborah Weatherholt said.

For more information about the research contact joe.dambrosia@louisville.edu.