Mom bans the 'f' word, but not the 4-letter word you're thinking about


by Brooke Katz

Posted on July 1, 2013 at 5:42 PM

(WHAS11) -- A mother making headlines for outlawing the "f" word in her house, but not the four-letter word you're thinking about.

She says fat is the new "f" word and she doesn't want her daughters to hear it.

The mother of three said talking about weight issues in front of young girls can be damaging to their self esteem.

It's a figment of any parent's vivid imagination - sending your kid off to camp and getting a counselor like Ben Stiller in "Heavyweights," but when a regular summer camp counselor used the "f" word on Stephanie Wilder-Taylor's then 5-year-old child she said she was un-nerved by her daughter's reaction..

“‘Mommy, I can't drink soda because drinking soda gives you a fat tummy,’ and I was horrified,” Wilder-Taylor said. “They are too young to be thinking about dieting or whether they are too fat or too thin.”

Wilder Taylor said she made a rule to not allow the "f" word to be used by anyone in her house and she wrote a blog sounding the alarm for adults that children listen to what grownups say very carefully.

“Let's not talk about self-hating our bodies in front of my kids. I've got three young girls here and they are impressionable," Wilder-Taylor said.

Instead, she said she likes to boogie with her girls to show that women of all shapes and sizes should strut their stuff proudly.

“I do little booty shakes in front of my kid's face’s. I try to let them know that yeah, you know, my butt might be a little big, but it's awesome," Wilder-Taylor said.

Her 500 word blog sparked some outrage, but a lot of praise from moms trying to keep their daughters, and sons, free of the weight anxiety. Not only are adults siding with her, but some teens said they agree with her too.

“I think, like, it would make someone insecure,” one teen said.

And yet these girls' own moms said they felt differently; that every adult who influences kids has a duty to counteract all that pressure to be thin.

"We as parents give responsibility to others to help them interpret messages,” mom Jody said.

A lot of parents said they feel it’s not so much what you say, but how you say it.

“I think, um, ‘it makes you fat’ or that kind of stuff should just be left off the table,” Tony Parisi, parent, said.

Wilder-Taylor is an author and has been entertaining thousands of mothers on her blog "Baby on Bored" since 2005.